EVERYONE HAS A STORY

Hi fam, how is the year going? I hope we are making progress?

Let’s always believe, No effort is lost

Greatness has a price!

No matter how casual and easy we live there is always a story behind every action and reaction taken

Due to my fierce love for short story I came across this inspiring story I can relate with and I hope we all learn from it

POINTS IN LIFE

NO TEXT

My classmates in J.S.S 2E chorused my name when the English teacher asked who will not be able to get the text all through the term. Oh! I felt really embarrassed immediately but hid it under a big smile. The teacher acting with wisdom just started the day’s topic without any further comment.

Well, my colleagues were right all through my first year in the secondary school I had only the New General Mathematics I inherited from my sister. So, they could obviously predict that my second year would follow suit.

I got home after school neglecting my closing time football, I cried badly because I felt I was tagged poor and wretched but God bless my Mama for me. She said these words and I quote her;

‘’...you make good grades and will always make better grades than kids with all the texts. This term wouldn’t be an exception, she said. ‘’

These words have been my greatest motivational speech. The words sank into me like a nice shower after a football match. I was comforted and felt great again.Not only did it comfort me, it gave me a defending speech that still helps me face my flaws till date.

I’m sure my colleagues meant no harm by saying that in class but if I had not gone through that I wouldn’t have appreciated the privilege I had.

Take this good advice, if they are going to judge you by your reflection, Why not make a point by not dwelling on the flaws. Learn from your strength because your flaws are there to prove a point not to tear you apart.

I’m sure I would have degraded academically if my mom wasn’t there to comfort me. I still preferred the fact that I had no texts but I had good grades even better than a lot of my colleagues with all the texts.

Restructure your minds and you will discover how soon your flaws can get thrashed.

We all have flaws in our life that we even get judged by but in it all we will prevail and will always have a story to tell. So, be positive and don’t let that put you down.

We are all going to be alright!!

Thanks to everyone who visited my blog in 2016.. I LOVE YOU ALL..2017 will be greater, brighter and glamorous!

                                                                                                                                    Mo.

BECOMING A BETTER YOU 2

Learn to Love Yourself

Hi prime-nation, I know we are all stepping up our game to meet some of the targets we set for this year that is gradually going to an end. I wish us all the very best and above all sound health.

Today, I will be progressing on the series ‘’becoming a better me’’ with discussing a very important part where we learn how to love ourselves.

I know we will be wondering who on earth won’t love him or herself but you would agree with me that most times we don’t act like we do we just profess it always.

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” – Steve Maraboli

I’m really sure Steve understood the principle of loving oneself because if you love yourself you would be very cautious with the decisions you make and the company you keep and also loving oneself help us in our relationships with others because we can’t expect others to love us when we don’t love ourselves.

I’m always sad when I walk through beer joints and find motorcycle drivers after drilling through the day drink away their income neglecting the bills piled up for them and their poor kids who deserve the best they can get. They call it fun and enjoying themselves but I’m sure you agree with me that they don’t love themselves.

I also know of a very awkward fellow student of mine who will get a bottle of Hennessey with the whole of his monthly allowance depending on others for daily meal, where is the love he got for himself? I don’t think I can find it because he is risking his health to feel good.

I’m sure we can all relate to this because if we think deep we will realize there are some actions and routines we’ve got that really shows we don’t love ourselves.

And how can we change all this? You develop a better perspective on life by realizing and accepting that you are a thoroughly good person. You are honest, helpful, loyal, kind, compassionate and friendly. You can feel free to love yourself, respect yourself and be proud of yourself for the person you have become and for the life you are living. You don’t need to explain yourself or make excuses to anyone else. With this level of confidence in oneself your choices will always be drifting towards doing what is very best for yourself automatically becoming a BETTER PERSON!

If you don’t love yourself you can’t love others which will lead to issues in actualizing dreams and living the best of our life.

Lastly, when we are weighed down by guilt, conviction, negativity from others and lack of self esteem we can’t love ourselves and become better, so why can’t we drop all those weight and equip ourselves with the opposite and neglect the negativity around

You can’t be better if you don’t love yourself and if you don’t constantly strive to become a better person you can’t actualize your dreams.

So what’s the basis of life?

Thanks for your time.

I will always appreciate your comments since it seems it’s quite difficult to comment here you can do that by adding me on my facebook page Adetule Moses.

A BETTER ME 1

Hi amazing blog fam, hope you guys have been great. Keep striving and aiming high everything will fall in place.

I’m starting a series titled ‘A BETTER ME’ which will be addressing critical progress hindrances and adequate solutions. I really hope you keep a date with me every Tuesdays and Fridays for amazing tips and short stories that will inspire and motivate you.

Do you feel like you worry too much about every little thing that happens in your life? Are you so concerned that your worries will happen that you don’t live your life to the fullest?

‘’The happiest people take a long-term view of life rather than allowing themselves to be caught up in the turmoil and details of each day.’’

They take things one day at a time. They teach themselves how to stop worrying by practicing a greater degree of detachment and thereby keep themselves calm and relaxed in the face of life’s little ups and downs.

How to Stop Worrying

 You start living better by making a decision today to let go of problems and irritations that occurred in the past that you can do nothing about.

Decide to forgive and forget anybody who has hurt you in any way. Keep your attention focused on the future and where you are going, rather than on the past and who was to blame.

‘’ Life is too short and you need to love yourself.’’

Two monks were returning to the monastery in the evening. It had rained and there were puddles of water on the road sides. At one place a beautiful young woman was standing unable to walk across because of a puddle of water. The elder of the two monks went up to her lifted her and left her on the other side of the road, and continued his way to the monastery.

In the evening the younger monk came to the elder monk and said, “Sir, as monks, we cannot touch a woman?”

The elder monk answered “yes, brother”.

Then the younger monk asks again, “but then Sir, how is that you lifted that woman on the roadside?”

The elder monk smiled at him and told him” I left her on the other side of the road, but you are still carrying her.”

Most of us really act like the younger monk we keep worrying about the problems that we neglect the way forward and opportunities that is available.

‘’We can never see the finish line looking backwards during a race’’- Adetule Moses

We can’t continue to focus on the darkness in the tunnel neglecting the light that is beyond it. Worrying will not let you see the way forward it will just make you dwell on the past.

In the midst of this recession, Always find opportunities and when you do chase it with all you have got.

Kindly comment and share. Watch out for other amazing parts of this series.

You can email me on miadetule@student.lautech.edu.ng for any suggestions and advice.

Thanks .

DREAMS ARE WORTH CHASING

DREAMS ARE WORTH CHASING

Hi great blog fam, I came across this inspiring experience and want to share it with you guys.

Nobert is an Architect who had the dream of travelling round the world and achieved it with massive experience and was able cave out principles of achieving your dreams.

As I spread the word about my current plans to do a round the world trip, I’ve started to get some feedback regarding this “unconventional” travel style and its destinations. (Update: I’ve already spent over 1,000 days traveling around the world! Best thing I’ve done… following this dream.)

In general, most people have been very positive and supportive of it, but there have been a few naysayers that have made me think for a second; “what am I doing?” But, only for a second.       

While it’s not all bad to get the “gatekeeper’s” perspective, I’m not going to let other people’s negativity stop me from following my dream.

Too many times I’ve experienced this situation.  Before setting on my first solo-backpacking trip to Thailand, I got so many negative feedback about the fact that I was travelling alone to a “dangerous” country and that I was “wasting” the little money I had by going there.

I’m too stubborn to let that stop me.  When I set my mind into doing something… I do it!

In the end, I went to Thailand and experienced one of the turning points in my life that made me realize world travel is something I’m truly passionate about.

Doing a round the world trip has been on the back of my mind for over 10 years and I feel now is the time I can properly do it and enjoy it.  So, I’m not letting anyone make me from doing it.

Now, in response to what naysayers, gatekeepers, or anyone might say to keep you from dreaming, I want to share 19 reasons why you should ignore everyone and follow your dreams:

1.     The only “yes” you need to follow your dreams is yours.

2.     You’ll regret it later in life, and if you’re delaying it, you’ll question yourself why didn’t you do it sooner.

3.     Not following your dreams makes you feel unaccomplished.  Eventually, this will stop you from dreaming altogether.

4.     It will attract some attention, even from the naysayers and haters. You will feel strong as you prove the naysayers wrong.  

5.      “The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.”

6.     People who follow their dreams are doers.   Doers have more power to create, influence, and change their environment… and eventually the world.

7.     Life feels more memorable, hence you feel and become more memorable.

8.     Following your dreams might take unexpected turns, but those are the interesting and memorable challenges of living the dream.

9.     Those challenges will help you grow as they make you step out of your comfort zone.

10.   Dreams make you take chances, but chances can bring more opportunities.

11.   Afraid about it? Good. Being afraid makes you feel more alive, so smash through that brick wall of fear.  Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.  Elbert Hubbard once said, “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually fear you will make one.”

12.   Your dreams and your actions define you.  Don’t let others define you with what they tell you to do and not to.

13.   You will inspire other to follow their own dreams, even if they know nothing about you.

14.   Following your dreams makes you interesting.

15.   Who doesn’t love to challenge the status quo?

16.   There are no rules in life so why limit ‘you’ to what everybody else is doing?

17.   Accomplishing your dreams will spark even bigger dreams.  (Following this dream made me realize an even bigger one: I became location independent!)

18.   You feel you have something more to live for.

19.   Even if your dreams fail, you’ll feel proud you gave it your all to accomplish them. Dreamers fail every now and then, but they also learn more in life. You learn from failure.  So, dust yourself off and try it again.

  It’s your life, live it under your terms!

MEU AMOR

MEU AMOR by Adetule Moses

It is with great love and affection I’m writing you my loving angel;

Your enlightening words keep me on track,

Your cultural values and African virtues illuminate my world.

Sunshine, you will never leave my heart and my love for you will never quench.

You have strive through the rough times of humble beginning.

Your pages have been a light to the world and a voice to reckon with.

You are a blessing to humanity and my pride.

I’m still with the memories of our sleepless nights, busy vacations, deep imaginations and you lying gently on my chest even when I’m off to dreamland.

I know you can remember all that too, I can imagine the smiles on your face as those thoughts is revived.

Jewel, today marks our sixth year together and I can strongly say I have no regret.

Though, security and economical difficulties is trying to tear us apart I still see light at the end of the tunnel.

I have been so negligent and have not been supportive but you have never left my heart. I want our happiness back my love and I promise to treat you with more value and love.

I miss the history you bring forth and the future you reveal and I want more of them.

African literature, this is for you.

You have survived through the world wars, civil wars

I’m sure we are surviving this together and coming out strong.

In diversity of tongue and culture we are pulling out strong.

The foundation was really strong and sacrificial;

your relevance from the Pyramid of Egypt to the sun-city in South Africa is very precious like the diamonds in Sierra-leone.

You are my one and only, you are the best and nothing will separate us never and never again.